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If you’ve been trying to change your life and take it in a new and better direction, this article might be encouraging and useful. When I was 36 years old, I knew I needed to change my life in a radical way. I just didn’t know how.
Back then, I was still married. I was a military spouse, and I felt stuck in every way. Under appreciated. Undervalued. And underutilized professionally.
I was homeschooling my daughter and doing all the homemaking things a “good wife” is supposed to do, but I knew I wanted to use more hours in my day for a something more. I knew I had more potential. I definitely had the time.
I also knew I was called by God to be gainfully self employed doing something I loved, though I didn’t have the emotional support or self confidence to really be so, back then.
If you’ve ever felt like you needed to change your life too, you know exactly how I felt back then…like your days were just slipping by without a purpose you actually enjoyed.
You want something that creates growth in you…
…something that adds that extra bit of pep in your step every day…
…something you know deep down in your bones that you were born to do.
Today’s article is going to discuss how you actually go about the steps to change your life and transform it into something you enjoy on a daily basis. I don’t believe that the whole of life is meant to be miserable. Yes…there may be difficult seasons, but joy should come in the proverbial morning.
I hope this article is useful to you and that you enjoy it!
Changing Your Life Isn’t An Overnight Occurrence – Until It Is
One thing I didn’t realize in my late 30’s was that life changes incrementally until suddenly you wake up one day and realize one of two things. Either you are:
- Exactly (and magically) where you want to be, or…
- So far from your ideal life that you finally resolve enough is enough. You’re ready for whatever it takes.
Maybe you’re like me and you’ve always kind of known what you wanted to do. Maybe not. It could be that you’re just now getting a hint of the thing you’re passionate about in life.
Regardless, creating a major change in your life seems complex and overly hard until you do it and then look back one day to see how much your life has changed.
Still, the impetus to change your life normally won’t happen until you get “sick and tired of being sick and tired.”
Just two weeks ago, I was traveling with my daughter to Capitola, California. We were there for a week while my primary client and the rest of the creative team mapped out the next brand we’re launching.
On the final leg of the journey there, I looked out the window at the beautiful clouds and realized that my life is perfect.
That’s not to say I don’t have areas where things could improve. Of course, I do.
But there’s not actually anything I can complain about that matters.
I wouldn’t change my work. I wouldn’t change the fact that I can joyfully provide for myself and my daughter. I can actually take her on client trips with zero issue. #WhereTheyDoThatAt???
I love my friends and my business circle. My family is amazing.
I have time to live my life as well as work. I am rarely exhausted unless I create pressure through some self-limiting beliefs I’m still working through.
On top of all of that, I have THE best client relationship in the universe (in my opinion.) It’s been two years with him, but this realization that life is amazing just suddenly hit me two weeks ago.
My life is perfect – for me.
And that’s how changing your life happens.
Once you start doing the work, you probably won’t see how radically your life has changed until you wake up one day and no longer feel the need to escape it.
It Takes A Lot Of Courage To Change Your Life And Go For Your Dreams, But If You Don’t Do It, Who Will?
Step 1 in your journey to change your life is recognizing you’re not where you want to be.
I’ve always known I am a creative person. I just didn’t think I could live a life being a creative, full-time. A lot of my belief system had to do with things people have said to me over the years.
Maybe you’ve heard some of the same things I heard.
- The world has enough creative people. It needs more people in science, medicine, and law. Go in that direction.
- How will you even do that?
- It’s too expensive to start a new career.
- Do you have time to do that?
- That sounds scary. Are you even guaranteed a job?
- Not being funny, but aren’t you too old for such a radical shift in life?
- It’ll take a long time. Isn’t it “wiser” to stay where you are and build on what you already have, instead?
- What if you make a lateral move instead of doing something brand new?
- Do you know how many businesses fail?
- How much does it pay?
I could write questions like this for days, and some of them are actually valid…but they are ALL the wrong question.
The reason is because they are all self-limiting, and based in fear.
Once You Make The Decision To Change Your Life In A Radical Way, You’ll Learn To Ask Yourself More Effective Questions – Questions Like This:
- Who are the people who are already where I want to be?
- Where can I get trained for the least amount of money but with the highest probability of success?
- If all the training is expensive, how can I get creative about paying for it? Can I barter my skill set in exchange for training? (I did this for almost a year!)
- What’s the niche that will fit me best? (If you’re not an entrepreneur and you work for someone else, maybe you can think of the field of nursing as a niche and recognize that, inside of that field, there are still multiple carer paths. There are Critical Care nurses, Labor and Delivery Nurses, Nurse Anesthetists, etc. In the world of copywriting, I took the route of health, and I write about health, wellness, alternative health, food, and fitness.)
- Where is a solid network of people with whom I can network, find mentors, and get referrals or jobs once I am trained?
- How can I make sure I get ongoing education so I stay at the top of my abilities and make sure my skill set is in demand?
See the difference between the first set of questions and the second? The first set will hold you back with all the things that can go wrong.
The second set will empower you with all the things that can go right.
YES! The desire to change your life is slightly scary, but it’s also a great adventure.
You’ll get to discover so much about yourself along the way. Not only will your life improve, but you’ll probably inspire someone else to take charge of their life, too!
No one else is going to do it for you. And that leads me to my second point about changing your life.
The Most Important Truth When You Want To Change Your Life Is That You Have To Take Concrete Action
Deciding I was going to write for a living came to me in a lightbulb moment.
Unfortunately, however, I took a very roundabout way of actually getting there because I was super scared.
First, I tried to learn software development. I failed spectacularly at that. 😀
In my defense, my idea was that I’d get financially-stable as a programmer and then have enough money to pursue writing with no stress. How nuts is that?
Once I saw how very bad I was at programming, I started building websites for people and writing their content. That also sucked, but for different reasons.
I was literally working around the clock for low pay and doing lots more tech stuff in WordPress than I was writing.
Finally, I fired all my WordPress clients, threw off all restraint and took a copywriting course through American Writers And Artists, Inc.
The rest, as they say, is history.
For you, if you really want to be a physician, you might need to enroll in your local community college and start taking prerequisites if you’ve not already done so.
If you already have your prerequisites done, you might need to bone up on your test-taking skills so you can take the Medical College Admissions Test (M.C.A.T.). After that, apply to Med school!
If you want to do hair for a living, you need to go to beauty school and get lots of practice doing peoples’ hair.
If you want to be a state licensed therapist of some sort, you need a Master’s Degree in Social Work at the very least or a Medical Degree in Psychiatry at the most. You’ll probably also want to differentiate yourself in some way in your marketing, but that’s something you can figure out in time.
Regardless of what path you choose, you already probably know that you need to change your life. You might just not know how to start.
The best way to figure it out is by taking some kind of action.
Do some research. Make some calls. Create a plan.
And then move forward towards your goals. Don’t worry about your actions being perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect action.
As you move along, you’ll find all sorts of things shifting. Certain priorities will change, your friends will probably change in some ways, too. And you might even find that your energy levels change.
I have more energy than I have ever had in my life…but that’s because I am clear that my purpose is multifold. I’m a mom, a business owner, a copywriting trainer, and a writer.
Once you start moving down the path to change your life, you’ll find the same thing happening to you.
You can only course-correct once you’re actually moving down the road. Sorry for all the analogies, but I think you get my point, which is this: you can’t correct anything about your movements when you’re sitting still!
So, instead of growing more and more frustrated with each passing day, why not take a deep breath and do something about it, instead?
Changing Your Life Is Challenging, But It Is So Worth It
The stories I share here mean a lot to me. I get the opportunity of meeting people from all walks of life who love what they do for a living.
I also get to share their stories with you to encourage you in case you feel like it’s too hard to get where you want to be in life. Nothing that’s worth it is easy.
I’ve pulled many an all-nighter with my work. I’m pulling one, right now to edit this article you’re reading…but I rarely feel like I am working.
The same will be true for you, too.
So, what are you waiting for? If you want to change your life, go do something about it. If I did, anyone can!
Are you in the process of changing your life?
Where are you headed? And Do you need any assistance?